‘On a purely sexual level, I don’t find slender bodies very inviting.
But, according to Grace, there is a big difference between a fat man and a big, handsome one.‘I’ve only ever dated big men who were happy with themselves but that’s getting harder to find nowadays.If I suspect a man has a âwoe is me, I’m fatâ attitude, I wouldn’t get involved.It’s a common assumption that women like their men with chiselled cheekbones and a taut stomach.Studies of male physical attractiveness tend to support this idea, with research by University College London finding that women like their men muscular (we’re talking athletic, not Arnie) and with a narrow waist and wide shoulders. David Beckham’s rippled torso might make most girls go weak at the knees but, for some, fleshy wobbles are a huge turn-on.
Take 29-year-old Heidi â her ideal man would weigh 158kg (25st).
‘Ideally, he would have some muscle and plenty of soft fat covering his body,’ she explains.
‘He’d have to have good facial features, particularly nice eyes and, to seal the deal, a wide bum and thick legs to carry him around.’ Heidi says it is the dichotomy of soft and strong she finds so titillating.
‘Fat men are big compared to me and yet there’s a vulnerability to them because they’re not falling in line with societal standards.
I’m very turned on by the contrast in our bodies and find the âgiving in to temptationâ element â to food and sex â to be exciting.
And I simply like the look of a fat, round, soft belly.’ Grace, 35, is a retired plus-size model and, like Heidi, she also admits to being a chubby chaser.