I don’t though want to be bouncing from guy to guy with her involved or be living like a nun until I get older when men are more ready to commit.
The father of your child exemplifies why men get a bad rap.
He was interested enough in you and the relationship when he was getting what he wanted or when it was all talk, but when the consequences—albeit wonderful, your daughter—of his actions emerged he couldn’t deal with the situation and left. You certainly don’t want to be bouncing from guy to guy, especially with a child in tow.
We can see how this would leave a bad taste in your mouth, and make you skeptical and concerned about all guys in their twenties, but don’t let him “speak” for all men. While dating different men is fine, we would recommend keeping your dating life and home life as separate as possible until you are fairly confident the guy you’re dating is in it for the long haul.
I go out with single dads and childless men alike, and some of the latter admit (while others appear) to be uncertain about the logistics of dating single moms.
Dear Readers, Today’s question piggybacks on a previous question: Will guys date single moms?
Please read that post for more information about dating with kids. Also read a personal account, “Dating as a single mother in my 20s.” Please use the form on the “Ask the Guys” page to leave us a question.
Thanks, THE GUYS Dear Guys, I’m 20 and I have a little girl on the way—my first child.
I was engaged to the dad for a year and he promised me the family I have always dreamed of.
We planned our little one and he left me for another girl three months after we found out I was pregnant.
Now I’m worried there won’t be any men in their 20s to date that are okay with me being a single mother.
I believe in love and want a healthy relationship around my daughter.