If you seem curious about the woman sitting across from you, she will like it. They call this a “date,” but, really, for women, it’s more like a “test.” If you emailed or talked on the phone beforehand, remember what the hell she told you about herself. If at some point during our meeting, you tell us we are “beautiful,” “attractive,” or “pretty,” we will like you better than if you didn’t.
You can’t just ask a bunch of questions, and then not listen to the answers.
We really do not care if you are secretly neurotic, deeply insecure, or mildly nuts. Act confident, interested, engaged, self-assured, ambitious, and happy.
What that is is up to you: a handshake, a hug, a kiss. The previous post on our ‘dating advice for men’ segment focused on how to make the conversation fun and interesting.This helps her feel comfortable and enjoy being around you. If you want the date to go anywhere you’ll need to have some depth and connect on an emotional level. But first dates are kind of like playing the lottery. If only you knew exactly what was going to happen, then you could plan out everything in advance.
You gotta be in it to win it, but sometimes you end up empty-handed. Ask us what kind of place and/or food we like; then, pick a place like that. If you’re a woman, you know these sort of situations don’t always go so smoothly. If you’re a guy, here are 10 tips that can make the first date easier on all of us. Sit up straight, lean in closer, and keep your hands where we can see them. This seems obvious, but it’s surprising how many men don’t do this. Women are strange, exotic, intuitive creatures, and we respond well to positive reinforcement. If you are sprawled out all over with your legs spread wide and your hands behind your head, we will think you are a slob or generally loose. If your legs are crossed and your hand is over your mouth, we will unconsciously think you are hiding something. If you forget, we will feel angry and want to leave.