Boy do guys get offended when I don’t go out with them because they have young children that are at the center of their lives! If it was a clean divorce/break up with no kids then she isn’t in the picture. I mean I always say never say never, because anything’s possible. I don’t mean to offend or exclude anyone but I just can’t do it. Don’t forget the mothers, you also have to deal with her too. Now, you never know, I might be proven wrong one day and meet an amazing guy with kids who his life in order. I’ve said before that partner priority relationships is where I’m at. Now I know it’s not always that black and white and some men really do have their shit together and can balance their lives, but that’s the exception to the rule. They are also more affectionate from what I’ve experienced. That’s when I decided that this probably isn’t for me. I don’t hate kids, I love kids, I just don’t want to deal that’s all. I do date men with kids over 18 though, they don’t really need their parents as much. I rarely go there so don’t ask and please don’t get offended.
When you have someone with kids, the kids come first (as they should) and I can’t compete with that priority. Why should I settle for less than I know I want and deserve. You need to work around the custody and children’s schedule. In my age range many men who are single have had children.Mums Date Dads is exclusively for single Mums and Dads.We know from first hand experience how difficult dating can be when you're a single parent and how precious your free time is.Internet dating makes it so much easier to find someone that ticks your boxes!talks to some single dads who were somewhat apprehensive about dating.
Once you’re a single dad, custodial or otherwise, the prospect of finding a new partner takes on a completely new dimension.
We’ve been following the journeys of a couple of our Christchurch dads, and discovered there can sometimes be more problems than there are available women. He’s always been Sinead’s main caregiver, and has been separated for nearly seven years.
Only this year has Allan found the confidence and the time to start pursuing a new relationship.
“I had a huge struggle through the family court, and that didn’t help.
It made me reluctant to get into a new relationship because I was always scrutinising my life and wondering what affect everything I did might have on the outcome of the court case”.
Having not been on a ‘date’ since before his marriage, some 15 years earlier, Allan was nervous, to say the least, about entering the ‘meat market’.