Guys, if you’re wondering how to get a girl to kiss you or you’re waiting for her to make a move, you may be waiting a mighty long time.Most women, me included, have been instructed that a man is supposed to initiate the first kiss.
I’ve been dating 20 years, and I have never kissed a man first. Don’t ask me why, but kissing is a big deal to us, and we aren’t about to spoil that special first kiss by being too eager or unable to control ourselves.Maybe it has something to do with those Aretha Franklin lyrics: “If you wanna know if he loves you so, it’s in his kiss.That’s where it is.” Maybe it has something to do with rules our mothers taught us long ago: “A lady never makes the first move.” It might even be because somewhere along the way, we overheard some guy making fun of a girl for being “easy.” No matter its origin, the age-old idea that a man is supposed to make the first move is still very much in the forefront of the minds of modern women.Waiting for a woman to kiss you could very well kill any chance you have of ever getting her into a lip lock.We like men who are suave, men who got the moves, men who make us wild with lustful frenzy.
If you give off any indication that you are scared to kiss us or that you’re intimidated by our presence, the wow factor fizzles fast.
We can sense insecurity and uncertainty a mile away, two qualities that turn a woman off quicker than you can say “smooches.” We want to be kissed.
We don’t want to do the kissing, at least not in the beginning. If you waste time trying to conjure all kinds of ways to get her to kiss you, you not only prove to yourself that you’re a scaredy cat, you also take the risk of forever losing the opportunity to create a scenario that would ultimately lead to a kiss.
If you’re not sure how to create such a scenario, keep these things in mind: If you’re dating a new woman, set a time limit for the first kiss.
If you are feeling some serious chemistry with her, you should give yourself a maximum of three dates to make a move.
If she’s totally into you, she will be expecting you to end the first date with a kiss and will be more than ready by the end of the third.