Well we say dated but it’s really just a fling as it was doomed from the beginning. Or can you change a player, stop him from chasing after the next woman and settle with you?
Let’s find out: Main Entry: player Function: noun Etymology: possibly derived from the phrases “play him for a fool”, or “play him like a violin”.
Why is it that some men pride themselves on being able to seduce women when on the other hand, women get branded as “sluts” after having had multiple sexual partners?
In fact, men seem to go out of their way to ‘pick up’ women that they might not necessarily even be that attracted too, or care about, just as a means of impressing other men.
Now to women this all sounds ludicrous; they can’t wrap their head around why someone would ever want to be considered a “player”, so I’ve looked to break it down for you.
Here are the two main reasons that men pride themselves on being “players”.
Being a player is something a man wears proudly (if secretly) because he knows he can do something which few other men are able to do: quickly attract and seduce women.
But even so, where is the incentive for a man to do this as opposed to having a relationship?
Chasing multiple women is validation-seeking behaviour; it’s a fundamental craving for attention.
For some people having one person love you is not enough; these people need to draw opinions from a bigger ‘sample size’ just to confirm to themselves again and again that other people are still interested in them.
Movies such as American Pie and TV shows like Entourage haven’t done women any favours in getting men to commit. Because the media has glorified the single life, whilst often simultaneously mocking any monogamous relationship.
This has led many men to associate relationships with a perceived lack of variety, and the single life with crazy, wild parties – and it takes guys quite a while to catch on of what a shallow existence it is.
The emotional distance that they endure corrodes at the heart of a ‘player’; they can only keep loneliness at bay for so long.