When it comes to online dating, the shorter the better.A recent study determined that the most effective online dating messages were fewer than 100 characters.This makes sense since we’re so used to communicating via text with everyone else in our lives.
For those of you looking to write messages that are likely to get a higher response rate and land a first date, follow my 9 tips below: Keep it tweet-worthy …
140 characters or less in your first message will allow you to sink or swim.
Instead of writing a lot in your opening message, focus your efforts on a thorough profile and photos that will help you get a response. Continue by asking or sharing more about the things you have in common to increase your rapport and relatability, but keep your communication online brief.
If you are truly interested in someone, take the time to read their profile and ask a question or make a statement related to their interests. Don’t message one another for days, as texting and messaging for prolonged periods of time can build a false sense of connection and intimacy.
You’ll learn more about each other and your connection in 30 minutes of meeting one another After going back and forth, try to escalate the communication to the real world by simply saying, “I really think we have some things in common and I would love to get to know more about you.
Would you mind exchanging phone numbers and talking on the phone?
” Once the phone conversation goes well, don’t keep things open ended.
Pick an actual day, time, and activity to do together.
Be specific in your plan and intent for a date in order to move things forward.
Once plans are made, and depending on how far away the plans are, check in every other day or so with the person.
Don’t overwhelm them with messages all day every day.