For instance, one white man asked him, “Do you wanna make a white man your slave?
Based on data published by Ok Trends, a blog produced by Ok Cupid, white gay men respond more often to Ok Cupid messages from other white men than from men of color.
They respond to messages from other white men 44% of the time but respond only 37.3% of the time to men of color.
White gay men also respond less frequently to messages in general than gay men of color.
In the world of gay online dating, your race affects your romantic and sexual connections, whether your potential partners realize it or not.
Systems of oppression based on race sometimes pressure queer men of color to lie about or hide their racial/ethnic identity in online dating spaces like Grindr in order to get positive romantic and sexual attention.
I’ve met a few people who have experienced problems with online dating.
One queer man of color I know is half-Indian and half-Italian with a common Indian name.
But in online dating profiles he uses a common English first name and an Italian surname.
He waits until he meets someone to reveal his real name and racial/ethnic identity because men sometimes stop talking to him when they find out he’s partly Indian.
Another person I know is Black but has self-identified as mixed-race on Grindr because he gets little attention when he identifies himself as Black.
And the attention he does receive for identifying as Black isn’t favorable – it’s frequently unsolicited and racialized.