If they don't, how do they decide whom to marry?
Answer: "Dating" as it is currently practiced in much of the world does not exist among Muslims.
Young Muslim men and women (or boys and girls) do not enter into one-on-one intimate relationships, spending time alone together, "getting to know each other" in a very deep way before deciding whether that's the person they will marry.
The choice of a marriage partner is one of the most important decisions a person will make in his or her lifetime.It should not be taken lightly, nor left to chance or hormones.It should be taken as seriously as any other major decision in life - with prayer, careful investigation, and family involvement.First of all, Muslim youth develop very close friendships with their same-sex peers.This "sisterhood" or "brotherhood" that develops when they are young continues throughout their lives, and serves as a network to become familiar with other families.
This type of focused courtship helps ensure the strength of the marriage, by drawing upon family elders' wisdom and guidance in this important life decision.
Family involvement in the choice of a marriage partner helps assure that the choice is based not on romantic notions, but rather on a careful, objective evaluation of the compatibility of the couple.
That is why these marriages often prove successful in the long-term.
"Kill them all, and let their Allah take care of them." Laila Alawa was just a teenager in Potsdam, New York, when she spotted a guy wearing that slogan on a T-shirt and hoped her 6-year-old twin sisters couldn't read it.
Alawa had started wearing a headscarf when she was 10, a year after 9/11, and endured people on the street telling her to "go back to Iraq" and calling her a terrorist.
She was used to being the outsider — born in Denmark, she'd moved with her family often — but then the kids in her grade school refused to associate with her, and the isolation got so bad that her mother decided to homeschool Alawa and her siblings.