When I dated in my 20s, men always seemed to want me, and I took it for granted. I'm an attractive woman (long hair, slim and athletic, and everyone tells me I look like I'm 26, not 36), have no children or any other baggage, and have a good, sweet/fun personality, awesome job, etc.All of my dates have been fun and never a lag in conversation. I know you said you live in a small town, but if you lived on the West Coast, you'd have no problem finding a large number of men to go out with. IT COULD BE that you are so good-looking for your small town men that you intimidate these guys.
I would almost understand if I was rude, unattractive, or a bad date - but ALL of those dates went well. If I were still 29, perhaps I would have more "value" in the eyes of these men. maybe by touching their hands, or giving them a kiss, etc.After 6 failed dates, I even went out with a man who was 46 y/o, thinking that, at the very least, he would be happy to date someone 10 years younger! Even in your advice column, you applaud other men for their "younger" girlfriends - is it really so important? I feel disheartened that men my age look past me to my younger sisters. Or IT COULD BE that you are dating beneath yourself ... where the guys know they have zero chance with you.It could also be something you are doing on the date itself - such as talking too much?People write in to ASK MIDLIFE BACHELOR with questions.An index of all Q&As is located on the ASK MIDLIFE BACHELOR INDEX page.
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I have no luck online dating, and need some advice about dating guys in their 30s and 40s!
Your website seems like the perfect place to garner advice, as I am newly single and have been dating men in this age range.
As I live in a smallish town without many prospects, I've turned to online dating.
And what a boost it was to have so many men emailing me!
I had no lack of dates from online, and had tons of fun - but I have to say that my success rate in this age range has been absolutely zero.