A "hiatus" is a break in something that normally has continuity. How do you know when it's time to take a dating hiatus?When you've been dating for a long time and you're no closer to finding Mr./Ms. You date a succession of people and they all turn out to be superficial relationships.All your relationships lose their fizz and go nowhere.
Maybe you need to take a break from dating for a while.
Here are some scenarios that just call for a dating hiatus.
Jaime and Joe had one of those summertime romances that only exist in New York, filled with drinks that turn into lengthy dinners, evenings out with friends, and even trips to the gym that somehow still felt incredibly romantic. It was the quintessential “it’s not you, it’s me” speech.
But for Jaime, who was a late 20-something working in public relations at the time, the relationship wasn’t just a summer fling. It wasn’t easy, but it was a fairly clean break, except for the fact that they both worked in PR and inevitably bumped into each other at industry events.
It felt like the start of something serious, until she sensed Joe pulling away. “My ego was a little bruised, but I always tried to sense whether there was still something there,” Jaime says.
“And that literally went on for seven years.” Then, Joe was named to ’s 40 Under 40 list and Jaime—who was just named to the list herself—took the opportunity to make a move by sending a friendly (but carefully crafted) congratulatory email.
Last weekend—almost two years later to the day—Jaime and Joe were married.
Even when you suspect you’ve found The One, it’s totally normal for couples to go on a break (or even break up, like Jaime and Joe) and eventually rekindle the romance.
Nearly half of all young adults in relationships will break up and spend time solo before getting back together again at least once.
The on-again, off-again relationship is a staple for many 20-somethings because it’s often a time of self-discovery and personal growth, which can be directly at odds with long-term commitment, says Rebecca Hendrix, a marriage and family therapist based in New York.
“I think it can be really healthy to separate, have some life experiences, date other people, go to grad school,” she says.