I could feel my discomfort levels rising, but—self-admittedly—I often have hyperbolic notions of masculinity so I tried to shirk my confusion. The next 15 minutes or so were fine but as we got closer to our destination and began to look for a parking space, he blew my whole mind when he said “NO he don’t!
But THEN, Lil Kim’s “Crush On You” came on, and this good sir bypassed all of Biggie’s part and Lil Cease’s lyrics and decided instead to passionately rap every word of Lil Kim’s verse, including the “I’ll be undressed in the bra all see through” portion. ” I turned toward him with the blankest of blank stares and asked, “What?
In the end, he danced, AND clapped, like I have never seen ANY hetero man dance– EVER.He was attractive, and a perfect gentleman, expressed no interest in playing games and appeared to be more interested in finding someone with whom he could see himself long-term.He was extremely financially stable, family oriented and held the same religious beliefs as I did, but of course, I knew I would not see him again.A few months ago, I went on a date with a gentleman who really had me scratching my head.When I initially met him, I can recall thinking that he was perhaps more sensitive (aka, feminine) than most of the guys I engage.
However, I decided to be nice and at least get to know him a little more before drawing any conclusions.I left my number with him and within a few days he’d arranged to take me to dinner at a restaurant I had been eager to try.While I had resolved to keep an open mind, in my head was the reality that I would need to see some unbridled manliness (whatever that is) during this date in order to be comfortable with seeing him for a second one.The evening of the date, he greeted me with a single red rose, opened the passenger car door, waited until I was all buckled up before he returned to the driver’s seat (manners! We did the precursory small talk and enjoyed popular tunes courtesy of satellite radio.Not long after being on the road, he began to enthusiastically sing all of the songs.Now this perhaps might be cute and silly behavior for a boyfriend hanging out with his girlfriend, but amongst strangers it somehow struck me as awkward behavior. As I sat on edge in the passenger seat, frantically wondering how I’d endure what I was sure would be a long night at this point, I tried to maintain my composure.